As if mastering your body language for in person encounters wasn't enough, now you have to worry about your penmanship. When dating online, you can't avoid the written word. Not only does your online profile have to be up to snuff, but so do your emails. Before you think about sending a woman another message, check out these online dating email tips for men first! If you apply these tips, you will definitely get the interest of more women than you have before.
Do you find that your Sent folder is at quite high capacity, but your In-box is well, not getting much action? Does it frustrate you that no matter how many emails you send out, you are just not getting enough attention from the ladies? Have you considered that it's possibly the quality of your emails that matter, and not the quantity?
You could send out 100 online dating messages and not hear back from even one woman. You could also send out 10 messages and receive a reply back from two women. It doesn't matter how MANY emails you fire off online, what matters is WHAT you are saying.
1. Don't underestimate how important a woman's profile is to her. She wants to be appreciated for her personality, not just her looks. You want to read her profile. Yes, READ her profile. Sounds like a no- brainer, right? It is a turn-off for most women when guys don't even bother to read the profile, especially for women who spent a good chunk of time and effort on theirs! She will think that if you didn't even bother giving her the 1-minute it takes to read her profile then why should she bother with you. Makes sense, doesn't it?
2. Okay, so say you've actually read her profile. Ya, but does she KNOW you've read her profile? There's no sense in reading a profile and not letting the person know you've spent time reading it. Obviously, you're not just going to message her and tell her that you spent time reading her profile, so the least she can do is read yours. Don't assume that she thinks you've read it either, all because you said you liked her profile. Women know it's a line many guys use in reference to the photos, or to pretend they've read the profile. You've got to be much more savvy.
3. So, what should you say then? Simple. Find the points in her profile that stood out for you. Maybe she has a unique hobby she mentioned, or she looks like she traveled somewhere interesting from her photos, or she talks about her passions. You then compliment her on whatever it is, not just her looks, and ask her more questions around that. Find something you both have in common and mention it. Be humorous, unique, and challenge her.
And you do this for every-single-women. Yes, you read the profile and craft a unique message just for her. You don't copy and paste the same message over and over again. You don't just say "Hello" or "Wanna chat?" You don't lie and say you've read her profile when it's obvious you didn't.
Sure, you can fool a few women here or there with a copy-and-paste message and you may get a good conversation going from it. Believe me, it won't be worth looking stupid over when the smarter ones smell your antics. You will be left embarrassed and not only that, you may have just let the one you really wanted get away.